"Given this context, The To Do List’s depiction of a bumbling brainiac stumbling onto the realization that sex is many things and that one of them is pleasure seems almost radical. And for that perspective, Carey stands on the shoulders of the women filmmakers who preceded her.
Before female screenwriters and directors got in on the action in the 1980s, teen sex comedies were largely a gendered affair. The ones starring and marketed to boys were about getting it; the ones starring and marketed to girls about saving it. The message was: Good girls didn’t.
Then along came Kimi Peck ( Little Darlings, 1980), Amy Heckerling ( Fast Times at Ridgemont High, 1982), and Eleanor Bergstein ( Dirty Dancing, 1987). In their refreshingly nonjudgmental movies, good girls did. The focus was not on the losing of virginity but rather on the getting of wisdom. The characters in these films found that sex was sometimes just sex and at other times it was tangled up in emotions, romance, and love.
Although as archetypes the teen virgin and the slut have had currency since the 1980s, it’s rare in a movie from a female filmmaker to define a teenage girl by her sexual experience - or lack of it."
'The To Do List,' teen sex comedy done by a woman - Philly.com
this is like the only review of The To Do List that gets it